Maudlin story

November 9, 2009

Dark

Filed under: My World My Emotions — maudlinstory @ 11:17 pm

Dark days when will you go away?
Who will chase away the dark clouds?
Who will hold me ?
Who will tell me everything is gonna be alright?

Dark days when will you be over?
I made a wrong choice?
I got intoxicated ?
I regret?

Dark days when did you steal away my joy?
My heart is filled with confusion.
My heart is filled with anxiety.
My heart is filled with fear.

Dark days you took away me.

P.s : I remembered …. ….

October 23, 2009

Test

Filed under: Babbling — maudlinstory @ 3:42 pm

testing…. WordPress on blackberry.

I feel….

Filed under: Babbling — maudlinstory @ 10:59 am

I feel really strange today. Still very sore over the fact that i did not do well for yesterday phone interview with Goldm*aS**. It is a job that i really hope to get or rather it is the company that i really want to get in. Oh well nevermind. sure there will be others…

October 21, 2009

I got a Blackberry…. BUT

Filed under: My World My Emotions — maudlinstory @ 1:29 pm

How to use? (^,^?)

October 19, 2009

What is my job scope? Speak well… (~,~?)

Filed under: Babbling — maudlinstory @ 10:44 pm

Email from agent…..

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Hi Je**

About your job scope. Speaks well. Know more about their organization, go to website

You will be working for Executive Director.

Best Regards
================================================================

Never know that speak well is a job scope….

October 12, 2009

I will remember…

Filed under: Babbling, My World My Emotions — maudlinstory @ 10:33 pm

to place relationships above all other things

A friend told me a circumstances and it just got me thinking……

I fight for my career, earn lots of money to buy all that I want but did I forgot those whom i considered precious?
Did I took them for granted and think that they will always be around?
“I’ll be nice to them tomorrow” that is what i always tell myself but do my tomorrow comes?
Was I too caught up with life that those precious ones had moved on but I’m still left in the memories of the gathering 3 years ago?
Did i chose everything else except putting my love ones first?
Am i too selfish that I looked at my plight and forgot the pain my love ones?

30 years later, I’ll be done with career and youth fades away…. will my love ones and friends still be around me or will I be all alone in a big house?

All the above I am guilty of and I hope i can do better today..  cause 30 years later, I hope my dear ones will be around and we can laugh ourselves silly while we talk about our yesteryear.

October 4, 2009

It’s getting Mundane…

Filed under: Babbling — maudlinstory @ 12:03 pm

Time to move on….

September 27, 2009

Making Room for Love

Filed under: I read this somewhere, Moving On — maudlinstory @ 1:08 am

Making Room for Love

Is a previous relationship preventing you from finding new love? Learn how to stop letting that ex block you from moving forward with these seven tips.

By Heather Belle, MFC & Michelle Fiordaliso, MSW

Making Room for Love

The reason the windshield is so big and the rearview mirror is so small is because where we’re going is much more important than where we’ve been. Sometimes, while stepping forward into the world of dating, we unfortunately get tripped up by still being overly focused on the past. So, how do you stop letting your Exes get in the way? Here are seven tips that will help you loosen the grip any Ex may have on you. The better you are at handling your Exes, the more space you’ll have to let new love into your life.

1. Honesty

Honesty is the best policy. When it comes to Exes this doesn’t mean telling them off or reminding them of what they did wrong. It’s the exact opposite. It’s being honest with yourself about the strange cocktail of emotions that a break-up can trigger—anything from sadness to suffering, longing to jealousy. If you’re unresolved in any way about your Ex, these underlying feelings can become unnecessary baggage in your dating life. Make an effort to be honest with yourself.

2. No Fault Policy

Whether you feel like you were a victim or a volunteer with your Ex, it’s better not to place blame. The more fixated you are on getting even, proving a point, or feeling vindicated, the less available you are to nurture warm, fuzzy feelings for someone else. By lowering your pointer finger, you’ll find that you’re now free to hold hands with someone new.

3. Clear Boundaries

When your boundaries are clear you can spend less time and energy protecting yourself. Draw lines in the sand with your Ex. Know your limits and be direct about what they are. Then, you’ll be able to choose who gets under your skin and who stays at arm’s length.

4. Be Quiet

Talk less. Listen more. When you converse with your Ex, be willing to hear their requests and respond without getting defensive. If discussions don’t work, you may want to use email instead. It’s easier to be clear and to avoid engaging in go-nowhere, exhausting conversations in writing. Writing (and reading) information in an email prevents you from reacting. Don’t push their buttons. Don’t build your case. Don’t say things that will incite arguments. You might not hear love calling if you’re in a screaming match with your Ex.

5. A New Approach

Come on, if you keep playing the same old song you keep dancing the same old dance. If your interactions with your Ex keep producing the same unsatisfying outcome, for goodness sake, try a different approach. Dr. Robert Sapolsky, a neurobiologist at Stanford University, said, “We’re lousy at recognizing when our normal coping mechanisms aren’t working. Our response is usually to do it five times more, instead of thinking, maybe it’s time to try something new.” Prepare an alternative (dare we say better) way for handling your Ex.

6. False Intimacy Can Be Dangerous

While you don’t need to be overly guarded, sometimes part of having clear boundaries is not letting your Ex get too close to you. Yes, that means physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially. No, they cannot fix your sprinkler system anymore or tuck you in when you’re sick. It’s over. Too much intimacy with an Ex can be confusing to everyone. It can reignite old feelings that were better left snuffed out. More than anything, it distracts you from giving someone, anyone, a chance.

7. Say Goodbye

Saying goodbye to an Ex might be the most obvious thing yet it’s often the least common thing people do. Don’t walk down memory lane anymore. Don’t revisit old wounds and hurts. Don’t reengage. If this person constantly reactivates bad feelings and brings out your worst self, it’s time to let them go for your sake as well as theirs. Just keep walking forward without looking back.

You deserve a second chance. To truly create an opportunity to meet your new love you need to focus your energy on moving on. The love you’re looking for is ahead of you, not behind you. If you stay focused on the road beyond the windshield you’ll get there much sooner.

August 23, 2009

CoCo Chanel

Filed under: I just thought it is interesting — maudlinstory @ 5:40 pm

File:CocoChanel.jpgGabrielle BonheurCocoChanel (19 August 1883 – 10 January 1971)[1] was a pioneering French fashion designer whose modernist philosophy, menswear-inspired fashions, and pursuit of expensive simplicity made her an important figure in 20th-century fashion. Her extraordinary influence on haute couture was such that she was the only person in the field to be named on TIME Magazine’s 100 most influential people of the 20th century.[2]

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Early life

Chanel was born on August 19, 1883. She was the second daughter of traveling salesman Albert Chanel and Jeanne Devolle in the small city of Saumur, Maine-et-Loire. Coco was born in a poorhouse. Her birth was recorded the following day. Two employees of the hospice went to city hall and declared the child of feminine gender. The hospice employees were illiterate, so when the mayor François Poitu wrote down the birth, no one knew how to spell Chanel so the mayor improvised and recorded it with an “s,” making it Chasnel. This misspelling made the tracing of her roots almost impossible for biographers when Chanel later rose to prominence. Her parents married in 1883. She had five siblings:two sisters, Julian (1882-1913) and Antoinette (born 1887) and three brothers, Alphonse (born 1885), Lucien (born 1889) and Peter (born and died 1891). In 1895, when she was 12 years old, Chanel’s mother died of tuberculosis and her father left the family a short time later because he needed to work to raise his children. Because of his work, the young Chanel spent seven years in the orphanage of the Roman Catholic monastery of Aubazine, where she learned the trade of a seamstress. School vacations were spent with relatives in the provincial capital, where female relatives taught Coco to sew with more flourish than the nuns at the monastery were able to demonstrate. When Coco turned eighteen, she left the orphanage, and took up work for a local tailor.

Hat by Gabrielle Chanel, 1912. Published in Les Modes.

While working at a tailoring shop she met and soon began an affair with the French playboy and millionaire Étienne Balsan who lavished her with the beauties of “the rich life,” diamonds, dresses and pearls. While living with Balsan, Chanel began designing hats as a hobby, which soon became a deeper interest of hers. After opening her eyes, as she would say, Coco left Balsan and took over his apartment in Paris. In 1913, she opened up her very first shop which sold a range of fashionable raincoats and jackets. Situated in the heart of Paris it wasn’t long before the shop went out of business and Chanel was asked to surrender her properties. This did not discourage Chanel; it only made her more determined. During the pre-war era, Chanel met up with an estranged and former best friend of Étienne Balsan, Arthur “Boy” Capel, with whom she soon fell in love. With his assistance, Chanel was able to acquire the property and financial backing to open her second millinery shop in Brittany. Her hats were worn by celebrated French actresses, which helped to establish her reputation. In 1913, Chanel introduced women’s sportswear at her new boutique in Deauville, in the Rue Gounaut-Biron; Marthe, Countess de Gounaut-Biron (daughter of American diplomat, John George Alexander Leishman), was Chanel’s first aristocratic client. Her third shop and successor to her biggest store in France was located in Deauville, where more women during the World War I era came to accept her view that women were supposed to dress for themselves and not their men.

Later in life, she concocted an elaborate false history for her humble beginnings. Chanel would steadfastly claim that when her mother died, her father sailed for America to get rich and she was sent to live with two cold-hearted spinster aunts. She even claimed to have been born in 1893 as opposed to 1883, and that her mother had died when Coco was two instead of twelve. All this was done to diminish the stigma that poverty, orphanhood, and illegitimacy bestowed upon unfortunates in nineteenth-century France.

In 1920, she was introduced by ballet empresario Sergei Diaghilev to world famous composer Igor Stravinsky (The Rite of Spring), to whom she extended an offer for him and his family to reside with her. During this temporary sojourn it was rumoured that they had an affair.

The Chanel empire

Main article: Chanel

In 1923, Coco Chanel said to Harper’s Bazaar that “Simplicity is the keynote of all true elegance.” Coco Chanel always kept the clothing she designed simple, comfortable and revealing. Unlike most designers in that Europe, she kept the woman inside the clothes at the center of her creations. “I gave women a sense of freedom; I gave them back their bodies: bodies that were drenched in sweat, due to fashion’s finery, lace, corsets, underclothes, padding.”[3] She took what were considered poor fabrics like jersey and upgraded them. Chanel’s style is popularly associated with the image of the 1920s flapper, a “new breed” of self-confident young women that challenged the established concept of socially acceptable behavior. The flappers demonstrated their independence through new looks and attitude, such as short skirts and haircuts, openly using cosmetics, and being seen to smoke and drink cocktails. Compared to previous generations of women the flappers also showed an increased level of activity, pursuing athletic sports, driving their own automobiles, and going out to nightclubs where they could listen to jazz music and do energetic dances such as the Charleston.

The iconic Chanel jacket is a symbol of this design philosophy. A Chanel couture jacket has numerous design and construction details that distinguish it from a tailored jacket as traditionally constructed. For example, these jackets lack the complex inner structure of interfacings, pad stitching, and facings commonly used in bespoke tailoring. Rather, the silk lining is machine quilted directly to the fashion fabric, the long exterior seams of the fashion fabric are machine sewn, then the shoulder fashion fabric seams are hand sewn. The interior lining seams and the outside edges of the lining are turned under and hand stitched to the edge of the jacket. The three piece sleeve (another distinctive Chanel feature) is constructed in a similar manner, then hand sewn to the body of the jacket. The heavy trims, cast metal buttons and the curbed chain sewn to the hem have a functional purpose by adding weight to a garment that is really nothing more than fashion fabric and lining.[4] The end result is a supremely comfortable garment, more like a sweater than a traditional jacket. Most of her fashions had a staying power, and didn’t change much from year to year—or even generation to generation.[5]

Chanel came out with her first signature fragrance, Chanel No. 5, in 1921. The perfume was the first to have a designer’s name attached to it, and it has enjoyed tremendous success since its introduction. In this way, Chanel set the standard for successive designers to do the same.[6]

Later years

In 1925, Vera Bate Lombardi, reputedly the illegitimate daughter of Adolphus Cambridge, 1st Marquess of Cambridge and Duke of Teck,[7] became Chanel’s muse and public relations liaison to a number of European royal families. Lombardi had the highest connections possible to build the House of Chanel. Chanel established the English look based upon Lombardi’s persona and Lombardi introduced Chanel to her uncle the Duke of Westminster, her cousin the Duke of Windsor, and many other aristocratic families for Chanel’s creative, romantic, financial, social and political rise to power.[8]

In 1939, at the beginning of World War II, the designer closed her shops. She believed that it was not a time for fashion.[citation needed] She would live in the Hôtel Ritz Paris, on and off, and for more than 30 years, making the hotel her Paris home even during the Nazi occupation. During that time she was criticized for having an affair with Hans Gunther von Dincklage, a German officer and Nazi spy who arranged for her to remain in the hotel.[2][9] She also maintained an apartment above her couture house at 31, rue Cambon and built Villa La Pausa in Roquebrune on the French Riviera.

In 1943 after 4 years of professional separation, Chanel sought collaboration with Lombardi in Rome to access Lombardi’s relative Sir Winston Churchill in the Walter Schellenberg Nazi plot “Operation Modellhut” under the guise of requesting Lombardi return to work for the House of Chanel in Paris.[8][10] When Vera refused to comply with Chanel’s request to come to Paris, she was arrested as an English spy and thrown into a Roman prison by the Gestapo. The true motives of Chanel’s invitation to Lombardi, which later became purposely diverted by Chanel in a trip to the Ritz Hotel in Madrid, Spain, was that Chanel wanted Lombardi to contact Churchill in order for him to see Chanel. Chanel was later arrested for war crimes, but prevented from being taken to trial through the British Royal family’s intervention.[8]

In 1945, she moved to Switzerland, eventually returning to Paris in 1954, the year she also returned to the fashion world. Her new collection did not have much success with the Parisians because of her relationship with the Nazi spy; however, it was much applauded by the British and Americans, who became her faithful customers.[11]

Death

Coco Chanel died of a heart attack in her private suite at the Hôtel Ritz Paris on 10 January 1971, at the age of 87. She was buried in Lausanne, Switzerland and her tombstone is carved with lion heads representing her birth sign, Leo. [12]

August 22, 2009

The DON’T make sense Admin Policy

Filed under: Muses — maudlinstory @ 5:25 pm

Admin Policy – Directors and below can only travel by Economy.

Conversation with admin manager:
Me : I have a senior manager travelling to Hyderabad. As the plane is full for her return leg, I’ve booked her on on business. Just that leg and i have also waitlisted on econ. If it gets through, she’ll fly back on economy. The 2nd partner (the head of Assurance) has left for the day. Therefore no 2nd approval. My boss has approved, please let the agent know that we can proceed to issue the ticket.

Admin Manager : Oh no the policy is even tighter. I dun dare to say ok to this. We must wait for the 2nd approval to be around in order to approve it.

Me : but flight is very full and she needs to be there. If i allow it to auto cancel then i may not get her a seat again for both ways. The job needs her there.

Admin Manager : is the policy.

Me : -_- … nvm. bye

(hello… u think head of assurance got nothing to do other than approving your TR? this is a small matter.)

Conversation with boss at 6pm

Me : Boss can i send an email to the 2nd approval to ask for an approval? Admin says is a must cause senior manager cannot travel on business. BUT it is a small matter and he is home. I dun wanna trouble him over such a small matter. BUT ticket has to be issue otherwise she can’t get there on the already agreed date.

Boss : hmmm…. why dun u tell the agent to issue as personal and charge to my credit card. I can always claim it back. If agent ask why then say cause i ‘really’ want her to have a holiday in india. so i am sending her there. We settle it on Monday. This is ridiculous. How can we send someone there and just because there is no economy seat available she cannot come back? It doesn’t make sense.

My boss is cool….

I think, head of admin needs some intelligent to write policy and admin manager needs to use her brain more. If i have followed their requirement and confirm her on the next available economy flight, the manager has to be there for more than 1 week instead of 2 days. In the end, hotel charges, daily expenses, time lost and per diem incurred would be alot more than upgrading her to one way business. Admin manager follows the policy blindly and didn’t think of the potential lost company may suffer.

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